By: Stan Popovich
Every relationship goes through its ups and downs.
Adding stress from work, school, family, money and health can make the daily bumps in the road seem challenging.
Defining The Relationships in Your Life
There are all kinds of relationships such as dating relationships, friendships, and marriages. How you define your relationships depends on various factors, including what matters to you and how the other person feels.
To define your relationship, it can be helpful to ask a few questions:
• What does each person hope to get out of the relationship?
• How much time do you want to spend together?
• Where do you see the relationship going?
• Are you currently involved with or want to be involved with other people?
Figuring out what matters to you and your partner is an important step in defining the type of relationship you are interested in having. You might find that you are both on the same page or discover that you want different things in your relationship.
Defining your relationship doesn’t mean that you have to commit for the long term. Instead, it can be a way to help you both better understand the boundaries and expectations of your partnership.
Manage The Stress of Relationships
Every relationship will require some work on each person’s part.
Here are some suggestions on what to do when your relationships cause you some stress and anxiety.
1. Be a good listener: Listen to what your partner has to say when he or she talks about their problems. Do not judge the other person. Understanding comes from being a great listener and this will greatly reduce your relationship issues that you may be experiencing.
2. Be ready for disagreements: During times of stress, couples will likely argue. Listen to what your partner is saying. Understand the person’s concerns and feelings. If you feel yourself getting angry or upset, give yourself some time and take a few deep breaths before you react.
3. See things from the other person’s perspective: This will help you to see where the other person is coming from which will increase your understanding of the situation. Don’t assume that you are the one who has all the answers.
Some people may make assumptions regarding their relationship. It is important to talk to your partner if you have any concerns and worries. Ask questions if things are not clear. Communication is important if you want a successful relationship.
4. Learn from your mistakes: It takes practice and some effort to maintain a successful relationship. Try to learn from your previous relationship mistakes. Making an effort on improving your relationship skills will benefit you in the long run.
5. Learn to work with the other person: It is important to learn to work with your partner. Being in a relationship is like being part of a team. Each person must do his or her own part. One person can’t do everything. Getting into the habit of helping each other will help improve your relationship.
6. Give each other some space: It is important to spend time with your friends when you are in relationship. Spending all of your free time with one person could cause problems in your relationship. Do not overwhelm your partner and give them some space.
7. Seek the services of a counselor: There is nothing wrong with seeking help. Maintaining a relationship can be difficult so it is important to get additional advice from an experienced professional. This is a great way to learn effective ways on maintaining happier relationships.
How To End a Relationship
Ending a relationship can result in depression and loneliness for everyone.
Here are some suggestions on what you can do to help manage the stress of ending a relationship.
1. Give it some time: You will feel a little sad and you will not want to do anything, however things do get better as time goes by. Give it a month or so and things will get better. Eventually, things will get back to normal.
2. Develop new friendships: You could do some volunteer work to meet other people and make new friends. Helping others will make you feel better. Go to your local charity groups and see what kinds of volunteer activities are available that you would enjoy doing.
3. Stay active: Determine what interests you may have and pursue those things you may like to do. For example, you could travel to a place that you enjoy, or you could try a new hobby. Find something you like to do.
4. Spend time with animals: Animals are a great source of companionship. Volunteer at your local animal shelter to help those animals who are in need. Another option is to consider adopting a pet. Regardless, spending time with your favorite pet or animal will manage your loneliness.
5. Don’t focus on the past: Make the effort of looking ahead instead of thinking about the past. Put your energies into meeting new people or spend your time with your friends rather than dwelling on things that have happened.
6. Learn to manage your negative thinking: When you are depressed, you will tend to think of negative things. Remind yourself that worry exaggerates the problems you have and that things will get better. Try to avoid negative thoughts and remain positive. Your circumstances will change over time.
Remember that you will not be alone for the rest of your life. People come and go and with that relationships develop and end. The key is to be the best person you can be and be yourself.
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